Fix the attachment patterns breaking your leadership, culture, and systems before they become six figure turnover and reputational risk
Each departure costs your organization an average of 22k- and that number skyrockets with senior staff.
Morale. Productivity. Institutional knowledge.
Your're not just losing people
You're bleeding culture and exposing attachment wounds inside your leadership system.
I am Jenora Ledbetter, an Attachment-Informed People Strategy Expert and creator of the Purple Elephant Method. I diagnose the breakdown you can’t name, identify the attachment patterns driving misalignment, map the internal damage, and guide you in stabilizing your leadership and culture before it turns into six-figure turnover or reputational risk.
Not Ready to Dive in Yet?
Let's talk through what's happening beneath the surface and see what direction makes the most sense.
This isn’t a coaching session. It is not a sales pitch. It’s a decision point.
This isn’t a coaching session, diagnostic, or sales pitch.
It’s simply a conversation.
A straightforward 30-minute call where we discuss what you’re noticing in your leadership or culture, what concerns are coming up, and whether the challenge requires deeper support.
Leadership issues can show up as communication breakdowns, tension between managers, or early signs of misalignment. This call helps you get clarity on whether your situation is a quick fix, something your team can address internally, or something that may benefit from a deeper attachment-informed assessment.
By the end of the call, you’ll know:
• whether your concerns point to a bigger pattern
• whether the Naming the Purple Elephant™ Strategy Session is appropriate
• or whether your team can take next steps on their own
Why "Self Care" Is More Than Our Name
At The Self Care Network LLC, we believe real organizational change doesn’t come from another workshop, survey, or performance tool.
It comes from addressing the attachment patterns in your leadership, culture, and systems that have been quietly impacting communication, trust, and performance.
In our work, “self care” means something different.
It means protecting your people by correcting the attachment-driven behaviors and systems that have been draining them.
It’s not just our name —
it’s the principle behind how we help organizations rebuild psychologically safe, stable, and secure cultures from the inside out.
We help you:
• Expose and interrupt the insecure attachment patterns fueling burnout, disengagement, and mistrust
• Realign leadership and operations so communication, boundaries, and decision-making are clear and secure
• Build a resilient, securely attached culture that holds under pressure — not just when things are easy
We don’t “train and dash.”
We work with you through the difficult truth-telling and alignment process so your people can finally exhale, trust leadership again, and perform at the level they’re truly capable of.
WELCOME
They erode quietly: through attachment patterns, avoided conversations, and internal dynamics no one knows how to name.
You don’t need another culture workshop or policy refresh.
You need someone who can walk in, identify the attachment-driven breakdowns beneath your leadership and team behaviors, and help you correct them before more damage is done.
We don’t do band-aids.
We diagnose the hidden attachment patterns shaping your leadership, people, and systems and design a path to rebuild secure, stable, high-trust culture.
If you’re losing top talent, navigating leadership dysfunction, or sensing an unspoken tension across teams, we help you realign from the inside out and rebuild a culture that actually holds under pressure.
Every Organization Has a Purple Elephant™
The unspoken tension.
The quiet resentment.
The system failure everyone tiptoes around.
The gap between your stated values and your staff’s lived experience.
When insecure attachment becomes the norm, silence becomes a survival strategy.
And when that happens, performance, morale, and trust collapse.
Our work helps you name the pattern, dismantle the root issue, and rebuild a securely attached organization where people can communicate, collaborate, and lead with clarity again.
Organizations don't collapse overnight
Our Signature Services
We offer three levels of support, designed to meet your organization exactly where dysfunction shows up.
Leadership Behavior & Culture Analysis
When employees are promoted into leadership without understanding how their attachment patterns affect communication, decision-making, and stress responses, cracks appear fast, miscommunication, missed deadlines, team frustration, and avoidant or anxious leadership behaviors.
This high-stakes diagnostic, delivered through the Naming the Purple Elephant™ Strategy Session, pinpoints exactly where new or struggling supervisors are getting stuck, whether it’s confidence, communication, delegation, emotional regulation, or managing former peers.
You’ll walk away with a clear, attachment-informed action plan to strengthen their leadership foundation, stabilize their teams, and rebuild a culture where people can communicate, perform, and thrive.
For organizations in active breakdown.
If you’re bleeding talent, morale is collapsing, or leadership is operating from anxious, avoidant, or conflicting attachment patterns, the impact is immediate and costly.
The Purple Elephant™ Intensive is a deep-dive intervention that uses our 8-track Purple Elephant™ Diagnostic to assess the internal damage, uncover the attachment-driven root causes, and identify exactly where trust, communication, and alignment have fractured.
You’ll receive a customized recovery roadmap that repairs trust, rebuilds leadership alignment, strengthens communication, and stabilizes your culture before more top performers walk out the door.
For organizations that need strategic people leadership without hiring a full-time executive.
As a Fractional CPO, I provide attachment-informed oversight of your people systems, leadership behaviors, and culture infrastructure.
This includes stabilizing teams, guiding leaders through conflict, building secure communication practices, and ensuring your operations, HR systems, and policies support a healthy, aligned, high-trust workplace.
If Your People Are Struggling, Your Systems Probably Are Too
We correct the attachment patterns, leadership behaviors, and system failures that cause people to burn out, check out, or walk out.
Real change starts with naming what no one else will.
We bring attachment psychology, systems thinking, and sharp insight into the unspoken behaviors shaping your workplace.
Performance doesn’t improve where people feel unsafe, unseen, or silenced. We prioritize trust over control because compliance doesn’t build culture — secure leadership does.
We don’t stop at values.
We turn vague commitments into clear decisions, structure, and measurable transformation grounded in secure attachment and aligned leadership.
Ready to stop performing and start fixing?
Not sure where to start? Let's talk
A free 30 minute executive-level diagnostic conversation designed to uncover where your leadership challenges are costing you and how to address them before they escalate.
By the end of the call, you’ll know which next step makes the most sense and whether we’re a fit to work together.
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The Purple Elephant Intensive 🐘
Stop the bleed. Fix what's quietly breaking your culture.
Every leadership team has one:
that unspoken issue everyone feels… but no one names.
The Purple Elephant™ Intensive is a focused, attachment-informed diagnostic for organizations in active breakdown where misalignment, mistrust, insecure leadership patterns, or system-level confusion is eroding retention, morale, or credibility across multiple levels.
This isn’t “something is wrong with one person.”
This is something is wrong with the organization, or with several leaders whose attachment patterns are destabilizing the system.
We don’t guess.
We diagnose.
Using our proprietary 8-Pathway Purple Elephant™ Framework, we pinpoint exactly where the dysfunction lives — whether it’s power dynamics, insecure attachment responses in leadership, inconsistent expectations, fractured systems, policy exposure, or silent burnout — and guide an intervention that addresses the root, not the symptoms.
You walk away with:
• A mapped diagnosis of your cultural, attachment, and operational risks
• An executive-level debrief that aligns leadership on truth and direction
• A prioritized strategic roadmap to restore trust, structure, communication, and cultural stability
The Elephant’s Path
Your Strategy is Only as Strong as Your Blind Spots Are Weak
Before you plan, pivot, or restructure, you need to know what’s actually going on.
The Elephant’s Path™ is our diagnostic track inside the Purple Elephant™ Intensive. It maps what your leaders think is happening against what your staff actually experience.
We blend executive interviews, confidential staff feedback, and systems analysis to uncover the patterns you’ve missed, so you stop throwing strategy at symptoms and start fixing what’s breaking trust from the inside.
Why It Matters:
You can’t solve what you haven’t named
Your staff already know what’s wrong, they’re just not saying it
Strategy becomes aligned, actionable, and trusted
You stop spinning in reorgs and start leading with clarity
Ready to Stop Guessing and Start Fixing?
If your leadership team is navigating breakdowns you can’t quite name, but you know something is off, this is where the real work begins.
The Purple Elephant™ Intensive gives you the data, diagnosis, and direction to stop the bleed and rebuild your culture from the inside out.
Book a Clarity Conversation to see if the Intensive is right for your organization.
The Elephant’s Heart
What's Driving Turnover Isn't Personal, It's Structural
Burnout, mistrust, and resignations are not people problems, they’re the loud symptoms of a culture built on silence, unclear expectations, and systems that exhaust instead of support.
The Elephant’s Heart™ is where we diagnose the real signals your policies, roles, and internal operations are sending to your staff. Then we rebuild from the inside, with structure, clarity, and infrastructure that earns back trust and drives retention.
Why It Matters:
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Your culture already has rules, they’re just unspoken and breaking people
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High performers don’t burn out by accident, they burn out by design
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Operational misalignment is costing you talent, momentum, and morale
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You don’t need another “values” workshop, you need values that actually live in your systems
Ready to stop bleeding talent and rebuild a culture that retains without burnout?
The Elephant’s Foundation
What You Don’t Fix Internally Will Eventually Cost You Publicly
Policies are outdated, accountability is unclear, and your systems can’t back up your values. That’s not just misalignment, it’s a liability.
The Elephant’s Foundation™ identifies where your organization is vulnerable legally, reputationally, and ethically, and builds the internal architecture to withstand public scrutiny, leadership transitions, or internal crises.
We don’t just patch risk, we future-proof your organization by hardwiring transparency, integrity, and operational protection into how you lead.
Why It Matters:
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Internal confusion always leaks into public perception
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Culture isn’t resilient without structure, it’s just vibes
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If your accountability systems only activate when things go wrong, it’s already too late
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Leading with confidence requires operational integrity, not just mission statements
Unsure if your systems could withstand public scrutiny or internal shakeups?
The Elephant’s Signal
Your Brand Can’t Be Trusted If Your Culture Can’t Back It Up
If what you’re saying publicly doesn’t match what your people feel internally, the gap becomes a credibility crisis.
The Elephant’s Signal™ exposes where your external voice has outpaced your internal culture and builds the alignment needed to regain trust across staff, stakeholders, and the communities you serve.
This isn’t about PR polish. It’s about building a reputation grounded in truth, not optics.
Why It Matters:
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Internal misalignment always becomes public eventually
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Your staff are your first brand ambassadors or your loudest critics
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Community trust can’t be bought, but it can be broken
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Messaging means nothing if your operations can’t back it up
Worried your messaging doesn’t match your culture? Let’s make it honest.
The Elephant’s Wisdom
Your Culture Is Only as Strong as Your Board's Alignment
When governance lives on paper instead of in practice, mission drift takes over.
The Elephant’s Wisdom™ is our governance and compliance intervention inside the Purple Elephant™ Intensive. It aligns your board, oversight structures, and decision-making processes with the culture you’re actually trying to build, so you’re not leading one way and governing another.
This isn’t about paperwork. It’s about power, integrity, and aligned leadership at the highest level.
Why It Matters:
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A misaligned board undermines culture, trust, and credibility
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Compliance systems should support, not strangle, your mission
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True leadership means modeling your values at every level
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Governance can either protect your future or quietly sabotage it
If your board isn’t modeling your values, your culture won’t either.
The Elephant’s Journey
Transformation Doesn’t Happen by Reading the Slide Deck
Awareness is the spark but without activation, it fizzles.
The Elephant’s Journey™ is our applied learning track inside the Purple Elephant™ Intensive. These are not off-the-shelf workshops. We deliver bold, psychologically safe sessions that help your teams name the tension, shift behavior, and build the actual muscle to lead and collaborate differently.
If your people have the language but not the tools, this is the work.
Why It Matters:
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A psychologically safe learning environment grounded in respect and curiosity
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Capacity to address bias, burnout, and breakdowns at every level
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Leaders and staff aligned in mindset and behavior
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A workplace where growth is embedded in culture -not checked off a list
Your people are ready to grow. Now give them the tools.
The Elephant’s Footprint
If Your Culture Exhausts People, It’s Not High-Performing—It’s Just Surviving
Mental health is not a perk. It’s an operating condition.
The Elephant’s Footprint™ is our structural track for embedding emotional well-being into the DNA of how your organization functions. We identify the unspoken rules, invisible expectations, and leadership behaviors that are pushing your people into chronic fatigue, silence, and performance collapse.
Because when people are stuck in survival mode, trust dies and strategy crumbles.
Why It Matters:
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Burnout isn’t about yoga, it’s about systems that refuse to change
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Culture is either trauma-informed, or it’s complicit
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Innovation and retention collapse when people feel unsafe or unseen
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Your people can’t pour from empty, and neither can your leadership
Ready to lead a culture where people don't just survive—but actually thrive?
Not Ready for a Full Engagement?
Start with a Naming the Purple Elephant Strategy Session
Committing to a full consulting engagement is a major decision, especially when you’re still trying to understand what’s actually wrong.
But delay costs more than discomfort.
Every day a leader spirals, every meeting that ends in confusion, every resignation that catches you off guard — the damage compounds.
The Naming the Purple Elephant™ Strategy Session is the first step when the issue is one leader, one team, or one situation that clearly isn’t working.
It’s a focused, attachment-informed diagnostic where we examine a single leadership challenge and identify the real emotional or attachment pattern driving it.
You walk away knowing:
• the exact attachment pattern behind the issue
• the root cause of the breakdown
• the steps needed to correct it
• whether the problem is an isolated leadership behavior or a symptom of something larger
This 90-minute session stops the spiral fast.
You leave with sharp clarity, mapped root issues, and an expert view into what’s quietly eroding alignment behind the scenes.
Ideal For:
•A single leadership issue you can’t explain
• A newly promoted supervisor struggling with confidence or communication
• A manager avoiding conflict, delegation, or accountability
• A leader who shuts down, withdraws, or becomes overly controlling under stress
• Tension between a leader and their team that you can’t quite name
• Emotional reactivity, people-pleasing, or micromanaging from a supervisor
• A leader managing former peers and now feeling overwhelmed
• One team experiencing repeated turnover or disengagement
• A situation where “something is off” but no one can articulate why
This session is designed for one leader, one team, or one situation where you suspect the real issue is an attachment pattern, emotional response, or behavioral dynamic—not a skills gap.
You'll Walk Away With:
• The exact attachment pattern driving the leadership or team issue
• A clear explanation of the real root cause — not the surface behavior
• A mapped breakdown of what’s happening beneath the surface
• Immediate actions to stabilize the leader, team, or situation
• A decision point on whether this is an isolated issue or a sign of broader organizational misalignment
• A short-term correction plan you can implement right away
• Clarity on next steps — whether internal support is enough or if deeper intervention is needed
Who We Support
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We work with organizations where unspoken tension, fractured trust, or misaligned leadership is slowing progress and draining retention.
Not everyone is ready to do this work. Our best partners are the ones who are.
We’re built for organizations ready to:
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Name what’s been avoided, tiptoed around, or quietly eroding culture
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Diagnose the real breakdown—beneath the turnover, disengagement, or burnout
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Rebuild trust, alignment, and operational clarity from the inside out
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Lead with integrity, not performance optics
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Stop outsourcing the problem and start owning the fix
If you're done patching the surface and ready to lead real change, we’re ready to walk with you.
Testimonials
"This work isn’t easy, but it’s essential. Through this process, we created space to listen, learn, and align as a team. The impact has been incredible—not just internally but in how we show up for the families and communities we serve. The framework helped us turn barriers into bridges, and we’re stronger because of it."
Suzannah Holsenbeck, Executive Director, Read to Grow
"Jenora didn’t just give us a workshop she gave us a mirror. For the first time, our leadership team had the language to talk about what was actually going wrong. We walked away with more than a strategy. We walked away with hope."
Director of Operations (Attended Naming The Purple Elephant Capacity Building Series) Hosted by: The Community Foundation of Greater New Britain
"Our organization had passion but no internal alignment. Jenora guided us through the hard conversations and helped us rebuild from the inside out. Her work didn’t just change our systems, it changed how we show up for each other."
Executive Director, Mid-Sized Nonprofit
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